Mother-in-Law (岳母, 義理の母, 시어머니)

My wrist hurts from overuse (I belive it's called a repetitive stress injury, or RSI), my back has pain (maybe it's even MYALGIA) from being hunched over all the time, my eyes feel dry because I look at screens all day, and on Friday I developed what felt like a stress fracture in my heel, almost forcing me to miss my run. But I ran anyway, because it wasn't THAT painful and I love to run, I'm probably addicted to the natural endorphins and the feeling of peace I get resting from the run. All these and it's been more than 2 weeks since MJ and I have had any help (and we don't really consider our last babysitter as providing any help, so realistically it's even longer), so it's great that MJ's mom is coming from Korea to visit. She doesn't want to set expectations high, she's already said she might not be able to carry Baby Girl Yan except for short periods of time, and of course baby will have to get used to her "Korean grandma," but man it's good to have another adult around to team up on the baby. This is what I can't fathom about those with 3 babies or more: the babies outnumber the adults, even if you have 2 parents in the household, which not all families do. That's just unfair odds, I feel like. Having a baby is like subjecting yourself to a new boss, except you're on call to the boss 24/7, there are no breaks, no off days, no slacking, it's just the new way of life now. So getting 2 or 3 new bosses just seems tortorous, especially if they're not nice bosses, they're the evil and ill-willed kind. MJ's mom doesn't speak much English, and I don't speak much Korean, so we're at a bit of an impasse, but we've been able to kind of manage throughout our relationship. I definitely wish I could communicate more and bounce more ideas off each other, understand her thought process, how to raise a baby girl, but sometimes actions and implicity communication is enough. MJ's mom is not someone to talk Shakespeare or trivia or sports with; she's just very caring and hardworking without saying much, kind of like the stereotypical Busan man in Korean culture, except a woman. Speak softly and carry a big mop, or big vacuum. In that way our personalities are very different; I am a more practical person who just barely gets by with house chores, just enough is good enough for me, whereas MJ's mom has a very high standard for cleanliness, which is appreciated, if only just to balance out my slovenly habits. Father's Day is coming up! My first one as a father! Fathers are widely regarded as the "just listen to mom's directions and try to follow her lead" guys, but I'll stick up for the group and say I do a lot to keep Baby Yan alive and should be commended for my effort! Not all dads do the same thing, so how much deserved credit varies by the dad, but getting up in the middle of the night to a crying baby is not easy, picking up a 17pound going on 25 pound (feels like a huge bowling ball right now) baby all the time is not easy, summoning the energy to sing and make the baby laugh and hold her attention is not always easy. So yes, even though we didn't hold the baby in the womb and don't have scars to show for it from delivering the baby, dads still should be commended, and Father's Day is a valuable holiday. Heck, Sarah Snodd, the lady who originated Father's Day in 1910, agrees to (although that father was taking care of SIX children on his own! After fighting in the Civil War! Man dads were just built different back then.